What goal or dream do you have that you keep carrying forward, year after year?
And each year it becomes even more intimidating and insurmountable!
I had one for 10 LONG years, a goal that was REALLY important to me, but I conjured up grand illusions of why it was not possible.
Can you relate !?
This January, as I set my 2009 year plan, I decided to do something different.
The result…
I achieved that goal with one 15 minute phone call!!
And it ended up even better than I imagined.
After that call, I was overwhelmed with an immense amount of gratitude, fulfillment, and a core shattering realization of "success with ease".
Here's the story… and a VERY powerful "lessons learned" you can use right now today for your own goals. I call it the 3-Step "Success With Ease"
Formula.
It was 1991… the last week of my freshman year in high school.
We were sitting in the tiny high Webster City High School auditorium as they announced the seniors who won college scholarships.
Then they came to the "big poppa" scholarship, the AJ Julian. It was for $4,000. A small fortune to a kid going to college.
As they announced the winner and he walked up on stage, my friend since the 1st grade sitting next to me, Tony Neuroth, elbowed me and said, "Kevin, in 4 years that will be you."
If you knew me back then, you would know how crazy that sounded! I was a quiet, incredibly shy, awkward kid. Not the type that won awards.
However in that moment that I call an "Everyday Influencer" moment, Tony gave me a belief of "what if it was possible???"
| Side Note: An "Everyday Influencer" is how any of us, in our everyday lives, can have a significant, life-long positive influence on others through small but impactful moments of seeing the best in others.
Within the next 60 days, I'll be starting a grass roots movement called "Everyday Influencers" and I invite you to take part in the fun and heart warming experience it will create.
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If you know my story (you can hear it at the beginning of our most recent "Go Full Time Online" webcast), my family did not have the money to pay for college. And I knew the only way I would make it to college was earn my way through scholarships like the AJ Julian and financial aid.
And throughout high school I worked hard to receive straight A's with my eye on making it to college.
However as my senior year progressed, it became apparent I would need to spend my first 2 years going to the local community college because we just couldn't afford the college I really wanted to attend, Buena Vista University.
Then magic happened.
At the awards ceremony, they not only called my name for the "big poppa" AJ Julian, but also a half dozen other scholarships. I ended up earning over $8,000 in scholarships in 2 short hours.
Those scholarships, along with my financial aid package from Buena Vista, made it possible for me to go straight to my #1 college my first year.
Which also meant I was able to take part in a brand new freshman honors program the college started and I was accepted into for high achieving students. That included having the Dean of School of Business as my personal advisor, as well as spending 1 month out of the semester traveling for school.
I spent my freshman year in Florida, including the opportunity to learn from executives at John Templeton Investments, not to mention spending a weekend of leisure at the Florida Keys were we all caught giant Barracudas (mine is now hanging above the bar in my house!)
Then a month traveling Europe, meeting the people behind the upcoming launch of the European Union (this was in 1997). And doing a January internship in California (a dream come true when it was 10 degrees below zero back on campus!) and an internship in Dallas, TX with the local Development Office for Subway (I even got to meet Jarrod!) which is how I ended up in Dallas.
That's when the 10 year goal started.
When I graduated in 1999, I knew 2 things.
1) I was going to do whatever it took to be a successful entrepreneur, both financially and also in the contribution I gave back in this world.
2) I wanted to give back to my high school, and future kids just like me, by starting up a scholarship fund. (And of course it was going to be bigger than any of the current scholarships!)
And that goal sat on my goal list and was always posted up on my vision board, year after year after year.
In my mind, I thought it would take a 6-figure endowment, a big fancy trust, an overwhelming amount of paperwork, a crushing amount of hassle, did I mention the thought of a quarter million dollar endowment, and quite possibly I would have to also walk over broken glass while being punched in the nose by Mike Tyson to make it happen.
Do we make the journey so difficult we never set off on the journey? … Or do we make the journey so difficult we are an even greater hero in reaching the destination?
The SHIFT
This January, as I was sitting at my vacation lakehouse, reviewing the past year and setting my goals and plans for the new year. I realized something that REALLY bothered me.
This goal, of setting up a scholarship fund at my high school, had been on my goal/dream list for 10 freakin years. It had slipped into the realm of a "wish" rather than a "goal".
And I shifted my mindset…
First I realized after 10 years I had NEVER even taken the first step to make it happen.
A goal without action really is just an empty wish.
Second, I realized I had taken this goal and devised in my mind an extremely complicated plan to achieve it rather than looking for the simple solution.
Simple = Boring But Doable, while…
Complicated = Fascinating But Impossible
I first wrote down the first step to make it happen… call the high school and talk to somebody to find out the process to set up a new scholarship. I could do that!
LESSON #1: If you have a goal, or a project you want to complete, but find yourself stuck or not moving forward. Write down next to the goal the first step for you to take.
I've been using that one technique the past 3 months with AMAZING results, especially when I find myself stuck.
Then, I asked myself what's the simplest way to achieve this goal.
The answer — I don't have to set up a quarter million dollar endowment. I can instead just write a check for that year's scholarship and accomplish the same goal. And I could write that check that same day, there was no reason for it not to happen.
LESSON #2: Start using the "Success With Ease" approach. For every goal or dream you have. There are 2 routes you can take. The long, hard, complicated, almost impossible route. And the short, simple, easy and virtually guaranteed route.
From now on, borrow this saying we use here at Nitro "simple instead of complicated". Find the simple route instead of creating the fascinating complicated route. (You can always make it more complicated later.)
Next, I set a deadline and wrote it on my 2009 personal goal list. "Call the high school and start the process to set up a scholarship."
Then, as my friend Yanik Silver taught me, to make a goal come true make a public commitment so others hold you accountable. (Otherwise known as public peer pressure!)
At my January Vistage meeting, as we were reviewing our business and personal goals, I told them I would talk with the high school and find out the process before the end of the first quarter of the year.
So, obviously, on March 30th, one day before the end of the first quarter, I HAD to get into action! I got online, looked up the phone number and made the call.
LESSON #3: Assign a date to complete that first step… and then make a public commitment to employ the POWERFUL form of accountability - peer pressure!
The Rest Of The Story
I made that call on Monday, March 30th.
And in 15 minutes Kathy and Joyce quickly and ruthlessly CRUSHED my dreams of a long, hard, complicated, virtually impossible route to achieve my goal.
Instead, here's all I need to do.
Write a check, mail it to the school in April, and one deserving high school student will receive help going to college this year.
And what about that virtually impossible endowment?
All I have to do is write a check and the school, along with a scholarship committee of local bankers, handles the rest.
That's Success With Ease!
When I hung up the phone, I was overwhelmed with emotion.
In the big picture, I've given back much greater amounts of money to people and causes over the years. From giving my car to a single mother who did not have one, to large sums of money to the charities and causes that are important to me.
However the check I wrote this week was the most fulfilling giving I've done to date.
First, immense gratitude for all I have achieved in my life and the ability to give back and help others.
Second, and even bigger, the fulfillment of achieving a goal that I've had for 10 LONG years… a goal, just a couple months ago, that I probably didn't even really
believe would ever come true.
Third, and this is probably what's causing me to get teared up as I type this, the realization - through experiencing it first hand - of creating Success With Ease. And what that will mean for me over the coming months and years as I create greater and greater success, with ease, in all areas of my life and for others.
Your "homework" for today!
Apply these lessons to YOUR life, right now, while you are still thinking about it.
And share them by posting a comment below.
1) What is one goal or dream, that's been staring at you for TOO long?
And what is the first and *easy* step you can take action and it moves you forward?
2) What's the easier/simpler solution instead of the complicated solution that's been holding you back?
Just asking that question may reveal the easy/simple solution. Or you may need to give yourself time to let it come to you. Or you may need to ask other's for advice.
Whatever you do, trust that there IS an easier solution… and most likely just taking that first step will help you realize what the simple solution is.
3) Set a timeframe to take action and complete that first step (or more) and make a public commitment to others who will hold you accountable.
Posting it publicly as a comment below is the first way you can do that. I also encourage you to tell people you know as well.
Bonus 4th Question!!
I want to pass some of the wisdom I've gained over the years to the winner of the Wilke Family Scholarship For Empowered Youths.
What advice do you wish you heard as a High School graduate?
I'll be sure to make a future blog post that shares the letter I write for this future world changer.
To YOUR Success With Ease!
-Kevin
P.S. Did you notice I used the "Success With Ease" process in this very blog post?
I told you, and the 10's of thousands of people who are reading this blog post, within 60 days I'll be starting the "Everyday Influencer" movement. (public commitment)
My first step… posting online the simple 3-step process of instantly being an Everyday Influencer and inviting you to experience that immense personal satisfaction and fulfillment it will bring you.
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